Have you ever felt paralyzed by possibility? You have a big idea but you don’t know where to start. You want to quit your job but don’t know what you’d do instead. You want a promotion but you’ve been denied three times. You just graduated and don’t know what career path to choose. Welcome to Her Agenda Live: Getting Unstuck.
You might feel stuck in a job with no options and no promotion in sight, or you may be experiencing the infamous creative block preventing you from moving forward on your latest project. If so, know you’re not alone. There are ways to get unstuck and move forward.
Partnering up with Alley in their flagship hub, once again Her Agenda hosted a live event, breaking down what it means “be stuck” and how to move forward. Secret Deodorant also joined the event, where attendee’s had the chance to write down a secret of their own. Attendees shared their responses to what makes them feel stuck.
Panelists included Jennifer Romolini, the chief content officer of Shondaland.com, Charreah K. Jackson, the Senior Editor for ESSENCE, Trina DasGupta the Founder & CEO of Single Palm Tree Productions, and Ann Shoket, a key architect in shaping the national conversation about and for millennial women.
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“When did you first feel stuck and how did you overcome that?” Founder Rhonesha Byng first asked the panel.
“That first step out of college is so overwhelming and so panicked. I think the more you try to stratigize and plan, that the more you will drive yourself crazy,” shared Shoket. “There is no ‘dream job’ for your first job. You should forget the idea of the dream job. You need to get a job and learn how work works.”
— Kyrsten Stoll (@knstoll) June 15, 2017
“My first time feeling that uncertainty was actually further into my career,” said Jackson. “I started working at Essence four days after graduating. I felt this was my ‘dream job’ and what I spent my entire career working towards, and was burning out two years in. I was fortunate, I got laid off, and that was an opportunity for me to take inventory on my life. Even if you are further down the road, you can always shift.”
“I think I had a different path than everyone. I failed and failed and failed – my entire 20s were basically a failure,” explained Romolini. “I failed out of college twice and had no idea what I wanted to do and there was this idea that, ‘people just know.’ We think of careers the same way we think of love, like you’re just going to find the one, it’s just going to work out. But I really didn’t know who I was and what I wanted to do. What I did was look at the thing that made me most jealous, which is what actually what led me to what I wanted to do. Once I decided on that dream, I was so hellbent on it. I had 23 interviews before I got my first job, but I was resilient because the dream meant so much to me.”
— Christian McKenzie (@Xian_McKenzie) June 15, 2017
“I’m that girl who knew exactly what she wanted, and then I got there and it was all wrong,” said DasGupta. “I had an enormous amount of clarity. I was 17 years old and I was going to work in media. My passion to this day is about using media for cultural change. I didn’t know though at 17 years old that there are a lot of different ways to do that and that working in an office would be like hell for me. I later realized that I didn’t know what I wanted, so I just bought a ticket to South Africa. Taking a massive risk in my life, was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.”
Yet despite feeling stuck, lost, or at a standstill each of these incredibly successful women found their way. “It requires a great deal of course,” said Romolini. “Courage is the better thing to find than confidence. I always felt awkward, but I mustered up courage to go for the things that I wanted to go for and go after the people I was interested in learning from. I didn’t let all that anxiety keep me on the floor crying – I certainly did a lot of that but, I got myself back up. It’s just a matter of having more bravery than you think you have.”