Work life balance is the thing that we all strive for. So why do so many of us end up feeling stressed and burnt out?
Burnout isn’t tracked as an individual health problem, but is included in the statistics on stress and mental health.
Burnout isn’t just stress. It is the end of the road. Chronic fatigue, negativity, irritability, cynicism, anger – a whole host of negative emotions and behaviors abound. Burnout will leave you in a state of complete physical and mental exhaustion! And access to your rational, thinking brain, as you once knew it, will be lost.
So how do we end up in such a negative place?
The problem is that the human brain is programmed to take us towards pleasurable things and away from difficulties and fears. The fight or flight response produces the adrenaline we need to get us out of adverse situations. Great, when we need to avoid an accident or for short bursts of extra work, but when life’s difficulties or an increasing workload creeps up, it is the brain’s job to relieve the pressure and motivate us to keep doing a bit more in order to take the pressure down.
If this continues to ramp up, the energy needed for the brain to function takes priority over other functions of the body such as digestion, cleansing of toxins and rejuvenation.
When we are working under pressure, it is our brain’s ability to keep us going in this way that can actually get us into trouble. Doing a bit more each day might seem to be the current solution but over time the circuit for ‘doing’ rather than ‘being’ ends up dominating.
The ‘unconscious’ part of the brain, that drives the majority of our behavior, does its job and keeps going. It does this to the extent that time for exercise, relaxation and rejuvenation, can become secondary to getting things off the ‘to-do-list.’ After all, why go for a brisk walk or to your Wednesday yoga class when that could be time spent clearing down a few emails or finishing a report? This is a dangerous way of thinking, and it’s where we start on the spiral downwards.
Without nurture and replenishment, the vessel dealing with the constant pressure is not being topped back up and depletion is inevitable. With the number one function to keep you feeling okay, if the pressure continues without any let up, your brain will search for additional things to invoke pleasure and keep you going.
For some of us, this triggers the need to delve into other coping mechanisms. To start with, one coffee, alcoholic drink, cigarette, bar of something laden with sugar, provides the ‘hit’ we need, but over time, more and more is needed to provide the same relief. Then the more toxins we put into our system, the more of the essential nutrients, such as vitamin B, that we need for dealing with stress in the first place, gets used up in the detoxification process. What we think is providing relief and helping is actually depleting us further – it’s a vicious cycle!
Pressure and stress builds up over time. It is this continuous demand that means it can become severe without you being consciously aware of the change.
The key to staying out of stress and burnout is to consciously build in time for your wellbeing. Such as actually going to that yoga class, exercise, relaxation, hobbies, family, friends and fresh air are all part of giving you the inner resilience, increased energy and the ability to perform at your best. Work-life balance is actually the key to peak performance in the workplace.
Stress is silent in its approach and devastating in its burnout outcome. If you feel you can’t take time out from work due to the pressure you are under, maybe you can’t afford not to?