5 Essential Questions Ambitious Women Need To Ask On The First Date 

First dates can be both nerve-wracking and overly exciting. The entire process of getting ready, the anticipation, approaching the place where the date is located, and finally seeing your date can all be quite bubbly. However, don’t let nerves allow you to skip over the purpose of it all.

Many first dates can become a blunder of light talk about favorite foods, music, and hobbies. While this is good on the surface, getting to know if this person is worth a second date requires more digging and more in-depth questions. If you’re not sure where to begin, here are five essential questions to get you started below.

No cops involved, but age verification is the top priority, whether you meet someone online or in person. Asking to see someone’s license allows you to see their birthdate, which does two things:

• 1. Tells you exactly how old they are
• 2. Tells you if they’re starting the date off being truthful. In some ways, this can be looked at as a test. You can even score by showing yours as well.

Asking someone their real relationship status is important on the first date because some people may be dating other people and aren’t exclusive, some may have open relationships, and some may just be serial cheaters. Being direct with your questions and asking upfront lets your date know you did not come to play, and you’re setting the tone for how you want to move forward.

“Open-ended questions allow the other person to express their true, authentic self,” according to Women’s Health. “It’s a good way to get a sense of who the person really is.” 

Moving with clear intention determines if a next date is possible. Is your date unsure about what they want? Are they just looking to hook up? Do they want something serious? Are they dating for marriage? Asking their favorite color won’t do the trick; these are the kind of questions that matter.

We’re not asking where they see themselves in five years; most people don’t know where they’ll be in five months. Instead, ask what they’re working towards. Professional and ambitious career people see life differently, and you’ll be able to decipher where your date falls in line.

According to Bolde, [Ambitious people] aren’t going to waste away their time, energy, and mental capacity on someone that’s not benefiting them or their career. Nor will they put energy into a person who doesn’t support their dreams. To most people, cuddling and binge-watching Netflix shows for the entire weekend is heavenly. For ambitious and super-active people, it’s a total waste of daylight hours. 

Not everyone has a solid, healthy relationship with their parents, but it’s a great place to start to get an idea of their foundation. Are their parents still living? Were they raised by someone else? Where did they grow up? Do they have siblings? What is the most essential thing they learned from their parent(s)? These are questions to get your feet wet.

According to Forbes, a 2020 study found that adult children internalize and apply positive relationship behaviors they have learned from their parents when they view them as good role models. However, when parents are perceived as poor role models, their children seek partners who can help them avoid repeating their parents’ mistakes.

P.S. A great follow-up to this question is “Do you have kids?”