WATCH: We Should All Be Feminists: ‘We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller.’


Dec. 14 2013, Published 1:01 p.m. ET

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This is absolutely brilliant.

After finally listening to and fully digesting Beyonce’s album I had to look up the woman featured on her song ‘Flawless.’

Her name is Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Beyonce samples Adichie’s brilliant TedxEuston talk about feminism on the song.

The words she spoke deeply resonated with me and spoke to the issues Her Agenda tackles on a daily basis.

Here’s the section sampled:

“We teach girls to shrink themselves,

to make themselves smaller.

We say to girls,

‘You can have ambition,

but not too much.

You should aim to be successful,

but not too successful.

Otherwise you will threaten the man.’

Because I am female,

I am expected to aspire to marriage.

I am expected to make my life choices

always keeping in mind that

marriage is the most important.

Now marriage can be a source of

joy and love and mutual support.

But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage

and we don’t teach boys the same?

We raise girls to see each other as competitors –

not for jobs or for accomplishments,

which I think can be a good thing,

but for the attention of men.

We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings

in the way that boys are.

Feminist: a person who believes in the social,

political and economic equality of the sexes.”

Watch the full talk below:

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By: Rhonesha Byng

Rhonesha Byng is the founder and CEO of Her Agenda— a digital media platform bridging the gap between ambition and achievement for millennial women. The site provides access to content and community that gives millennial women access to information and inspiration to help them get started or to move to the next level of their career. Rhonesha is an Emmy award-winning journalist and entrepreneur whose philosophy in life is established by her acronym of N.E.S.H.A. No one Ever Slows Her Agenda. This motto served as the inspiration for Her Agenda. Rhonesha was named to the 2017 Forbes 30 Under 30 list and ESSENCE magazine named her among 50 Founders To Watch. Rhonesha is also the co-founder of the newly formed nonprofit org The Black Owned Media Equity and Sustainability Institute (BOMESI).

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