When to Stay or to Call It Quits, and How to Know the Difference


As entry-level professionals, when it comes to advancing our career, we are told that “yes” should be the answer to everything. Opportunities come and go, and if we don’t make the leap, we are forced to ask ourselves whether we made the right decision.

Her Agenda’s motto of “no one ever slows her agenda” plays well with this concept. As millennial women seeking out our own path the last thing we can do is let anything or anyone get in the way of success. However, there is one thing to take heed of- the fine line between taking on worthwhile opportunities and taking on too much.

As the creator of Her Agenda and its motto, I asked Rhonesha Byng to provide her own clarification to this topic. She shared, “There’s a difference between being busy and productive, so if you’re not learning, growing, or enhancing yourself as an individual or professional, then there’s really no reason for you to be doing it.”

Sometimes, we become so buried in our commitments that we forget- there are certain situations where it’s necessary to call it quits. Below, I’ve put together some common signs of when it’s time to reevaluate your situation and make a change. Let’s see how many of these you can relate with:

1. You Constantly Feel Overwhelmed

“…there is still way too much reluctance to abandon a project that isn’t worth pursuing…We make the argument that quitting – especially failing fast and failing well – is a greatly undervalued idea.” – Stephen Dubner, Author and Journalist

Just about everyone these days has a packed agenda- it’s what we must do in order to get the most out of our week. However, maybe you find yourself having so many commitments that it’s affecting your ability to perform. Rather than giving each commitment your all, you only have time to do the bare minimum. You’re constantly asking yourself, “How am I going to make this work?”

2. You’ve Lost Your Sense of Motivation

“I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘No’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” – Steve Jobs, Co-founder of Apple Inc.

We all have those mornings where the warmth of our bed wins over the idea getting up and conquering our day. But maybe this is starting to become a pattern. You keep putting off certain tasks, because you’re tired of the grueling work they require. The conflictive voice in your head begins to beg,”Anything! Anything but this!”

3. You’ve Officially Become a Hermit

“I don’t have children, so it might seem that my story lacks relevance to the work-life balance debate…Like everyone, though, I did have relationships — a spouse, friends and family — and none of them got the best version of me. They got what was left over.” – Erin Callan, Former CFO of Lehman Brothers

Your schedule is so demanding and exhaustive that you’ve completely given up your social life. While the idea may still sound appealing, your body has convinced that any and all free time must be spent recuperating on the couch. Congratulations! You’ve officially become a hermit! Don’t be surprised when  your family and friends send out an alert for a missing person.

4. Your Calendar Spells Out “Inevitable Doom”

“…I had no idea then how far the tunnel extended, and for a long time, any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality. So why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending…and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me.” – J. K. Rowling, Novelist


There were weeks in college where I had so many tests and essays due that in order to keep my sanity, I could only focus on one task a time. While these weeks were the ones that truly challenged my ability to perform under stress, to have to endure this every single week would have been a living hell. For the unfortunate souls that call this their reality- the chance of thriving disappeared months ago; you are simply attempting to survive your schedule.

RELATED: One Day At A Time: Tips To Keep You From Feeling Overwhelmed By Your Goals

So now that you’ve determined your relationship status with your schedule, what’s next?

How do you get out of the mess you’ve created? Or even better, how do you prevent it from ever happening in the first place? Take a quick moment to breathe, and then, click through to page two and read our tips on how to regain control of your schedule:

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Sydney Love

About Sydney Love

After taking a year off to do some soul searching, Sydney is now continuing her studies at the school that originally stole her heart- Agnes Scott College, a small women’s college in Decatur, Georgia. She plans to pursue an English-Literature major and an Africana Studies minor. When Sydney's not busy with her studies, you can find her tutoring on campus, reviewing local coffee shops for her personal blog, or writing for Agnes Scott's college newspaper, The Profile. Follow her on Twitter: @mssalove
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