Q4 Energy Forecast: Yes, Everything Falling Apart Means You’re On Track

There comes a time in everyone’s life when we’re asked to forget everything we’ve been taught thus far. Every signpost, every roadblock, and every fallen tree that has diverted our path has led us here – and despite the feeling that nothing is quite ever going to be the same again, this feeling of floating in between two realities is truly an invitation – asking us to become someone we’ve never met before, act as if we never have before, and, in a sense, forget ourselves completely.

Welcome to the Q4 (fall) energy forecast.

I know. Things are moving at a pace we didn’t quite think was possible, and yet – you’re still here. Congratulations. The themes for this season are, yes, at times heavy – but let us be reminded that (here in the North), it is truly the season of Death. This is something to be honored, not feared. All of us who have wombs experience a shift in who we are every moon cycle, and just like the seasons of our bodies, the seasons of life are indeed shifting as well.

Grab a cup of tea, a cozy blanket, and cuddle up to get the insights for this quarter.

In Chinese medicine, the season of fall is known as the season associated with the element of Metal – associated with mental clarity, healthy boundaries, and of course, letting go. When it comes to the energy of this particular season, there’s a call to turn this focus inward, to the patterns and thought forms we have repeatedly with ourselves that lack a sense of kindness and gentleness.

There is so much change afoot, and many of us struggle to adapt to this change simply because we fall into familiar and panicky forms of trying to think our way through things — and then get mad at ourselves for behaving this way.

What if the focus this quarter was instead on learning to befriend the thoughts in your head – meeting them with gentleness and compassion instead of a forceful desire to get rid of them? During this season we can be motivated to throw it all away – our old clothes, the old papers in our house, and the versions of ourselves that we don’t want to bring with us. This is all great motivation!

But my challenge to you is this: Can you do it with encouragement, gentleness, and a softness to yourself? What if being soft to yourself and your thoughts and feelings was the newest way to get strong? What if, instead of ‘cracking down’ on your habits, direction, or choices this quarter, you encouraged yourself with a gentle hand? The softness you give to yourself may lead to a bigger breakthrough than you’d expect.

To say you have been asked to re-evaluate what family dynamics look like to you this past summer would be an understatement. For some of you, this may look like a shift in boundaries; a realization that you do, in fact, want to live further away from home or something as simple and profound as realizing that, once and for all, you’re not actually responsible for all the behaviors, outcomes, and general life choices belonging to the family of origin you were born into.

For others, this comes in the form of friendships. You may find that the people you once deeply connected with no longer feel like home when you hang out with them, and the image of your 90s-sitcom friends-forever feeling is dissipating as quickly as the warmth of the sun during sunset in autumn. 

I say this with all sincerity and tenderness: ouch.

If this is hitting you, let’s dive a little deeper, shall we? There are lines that need to be drawn this quarter, with loving compassion and action towards yourself and your own needs – before we enter the fallow period of the year and the loose or tangled threads in our lives become more liable to snap than to come away cleanly. This may look like a permanent decision that needs to be made – removing contact, removing access, or simply removing your own emotional availability from the situation. It is possible to love those of us who matter most and understand that they may not be able to walk with us all the way in the direction that life is taking us. This is no small matter.

There is a grieving that needs to take place here – please don’t skip this part!

Acknowledging the hurt feelings and the effort and energy you have been putting into this particular dynamic for years will help you release the energy that’s been holding itself in your body.

If you need an energy practice, adopting a version of the Star Feeding technique from the Lakota indigenous nation can help immensely: Gather a stone for each memory, aspect, or wound of grief you have from the relationship you’re releasing, and take them to a body of water. Put all of the feeling, memory, and energy you can into each particular stone, and as you release them into the water, speak the painful memory / truth / honest statement aloud. If you like, one stone was traditionally kept as a ‘witness’ of the ceremony that took place.

Take the time to honor what you are releasing, so that it can lift up and out of your body for good. 

The universe is knocking at your door this season, and when she comes knocking, I’d encourage you to answer it. All July I kept seeing visions of Kali Ma – Kali Ma in the sky, Kali Ma on a sticker, Kali Ma popping into my head without me ever having asked her to come ‘round. The great destroyer, as she’s often known, is coming to visit you for a deep initiation of realignment. If things are falling apart for you this season – the relationship you thought was ‘the one’ is ending, your job has suddenly fallen away from your lap, or you’re being called to move house / move location, listen to it.

There was once a time when we could live outside of the alignment of what was calling us in this life, running adjacently to it but never quite touching it. In this current energetic climate, this is no longer the case – living in alignment with what is meant for us, lessons, teachings and all – is the only way forward. If it feels like everything has completely fallen to smithereens this past season, Woohoo! You’re right on track.

I know it might not feel like it at the moment, but I promise you, this is the death that comes before the rebirth. You asked for alignment, and for your wishes to come true – it’s one thing to ask for it, but it’s another to live through the process of making it happen. Hold fast (and gently) to yourself. Things are going to get easier after this season, I promise you.

Find something that gives you a sense of hope and appreciation — whether it’s a pet, a dream, or the dappled light that comes in through your window at a certain time of day. One step at a time, baby. You will make it. 

For those of you who have been longingly making Pinterest boards about the life you want to live but haven’t found it in you to do it yet, this is the time!! There is a certain magic to turning on the jets as the light is fading, and for many of you, this quarter is the prime opportunity to make that shift happen in your life, now. I know it’s so motivating to keep riding the dying energy of summer, drinking 3 matcha lattes a day when a) you said you wanted to save money, and b) your poor, sweet body really wants a nap and a 9:30 pm bedtime a few nights a week, not more caffeine.

This quarter has a certain je ne sais quoi to it for making magic happen – a bit like the thrill of sliding under the bay door in the villain’s lair and making it out just in time before you’re locked in for good.

When it comes to making the glow up you’ve been dreaming of happen, make the slide! Get an accountability buddy, a cute notebook, or some other tool that will make you feel motivated to do the thing, and do it. I promise you – it will be so, so worth it when December rolls around, and you’re almost two full months into solidifying that new habit. You can do it – if it wasn’t within your reach, you wouldn’t be craving it so hard.

That’s all for the Q4 Energy forecast! Grateful to have you here, and wishing you a blessed journey into our final months of 2026.